When you ask men about what makes a real man, a lot of them will get up on their high horses and start talking about what it means to be a good man.
“A real man would never hit a woman.”
“A man who doesn’t spend time with his family can never be a real man.”
“A real man takes responsibility for his actions.”
“A real man pays his debts.”
“Real men love Jesus.”
However, if you ask the same men to list their favorite “guy movies,” many of them will include films like The Godfather, Scarface, Goodfellas, and Fight Club.
The point is not "hypocrisy" but "what men have been told should be appealing, vs. what they actually find appealing."
via On Being a Good Man -- The Good Men Project.